Time Out


I was having a chat with a friend today about the difficulty of making changes when a situation does not make you happy even though it is reasonably acceptable by most standards. For example, a job that that makes you unhappy although it pays well and provides high social recognition.

He reminded me how often we have to be able to appreciate what we have and be contented with it. I agree only to a certain extent.

Sometimes we think that being a positive person means accepting our circumstances. While it is important to be able to see the good that is around us, I think it is also important to have the right perspective on situations and be aware of when it is time to step forward to a new reality.

I am reminded of the well known boiling frog story. Apparently, if a frog is placed in boiling water, it will jump out, but if it is placed in cold water that is very slowly heated, it will not perceive the danger and will be cooked to death. Sometimes we are like a frog: we do not react to an environment which is slowly becoming too small and constrictive for us, we feel uncomfortable but we stay, slowly boiling our soul to death.

The reality is that it is very hard to see the need for changes when you are constantly submersed in an environment. This works for everything: business, relationships, lifestyle. Often staying in a situation that is uncomfortable is easier than raising the energy, and confidence, needed to jump out.

But often, all it takes is some time out of that environment. A few months break from work, or a relationship, or a situation. Then when you come back to the original environment it is immediately evident how hot the water is, and making changes becomes an immediate, natural action to take.

Taking mental space will allow you to feel when the water is too hot, and do something about it. So what is there that you need to take some distance from?

Author: Stefania Lucchetti, Of Counsel at BonelliErede

Milan Area, Italy